On Friday 2/11/12, our social worker informed us that she was going out of town for a week, but that on Monday she would have her office send out our home study. I was paranoid because I did not trust her office to do this. Well, on Monday, the NEDC had not received our home study and I almost called our social worker’s office, but I figured I would give them time. Well, late Tuesday the NEDC still had not received our study so I finally called our social worker’s office and it turns out that 1) the girl had tried to email the study but the address wouldn’t work (yet she never called me for an updated one) and 2) our worker never gave her office the fax number to send the study to (which I specifically gave her on that previous Friday) So it appeared that my paranoia was warranted! L So I gave the girl the correct information and TA DA! The NEDC received my study that day!! Praise the Lord!
After all that, I find out that Bethany Services (the agency who reviews home studies for the NEDC) cannot review our study until they receive a check from us (they cannot take credit cards), but they could not tell me this until they received out study (What?) It seems to me like we could have sent in the money beforehand….well, God is so big and so good because He has a special lady working with us at Bethany who is reviewing our study and she agreed to go ahead and review our study as long as we got the check in the mail that day.
She got our study reviewed and approved by that Friday, the 17th. That same day, the program coordinator was able to get us the profiles of all the donated embryo’s that were available!!!!!!!! OMGoodness!!! We got them on a Friday, and couldn’t send our choices until Monday. And of course I received the files by email when Husband wasn’t home, so I couldn’t even look at them until he got home….that felt like such a long time ;)
After going through the files we picked some families that we were interested in, and wanted more genetic info on. The plan was to send these in on Monday, and then we got an email that said another family was looking at them too and that the coordinator would give preference based on who got their choices in first (race anyone?) I intended to send the email Sunday so that the coordinator would get them first thing Monday morning, but of course I somehow forgot and I was on the way to the dentist when I remembered!! :o So there we were, in the car on the way to the dentist, going through all the family profiles again on my phone (thank you iPhone) trying to find our picks so that I could email them over the phone!
We managed to find them and email them via iPhone to the program coordinator. She got us the extended genetic history on the families we were interested in, but of course she ended the email with the message that she would be out of the office the next day!!! We narrowed it down to a #1 pick and a “back up donor” incase the 1st choice didn’t survive the thaw. Monday night 2/20/2012, we emailed our FINAL selection to the coordinator so that she would receive it when she returned to the office.
Of course it was not that simple; we received a reply email that Wednesday 2/22/12 saying that they had forgotten to mention that one of our choices would not allow for mixing with other families, meaning they could not be our back up. This threw a wrench in the whole plan and we had to revisit all of the profiles again (would this ever be done?) Finally, it came down to us choosing our original 1st choice as our one and only shot; which is okay because they have 12 embryos!! This means that we can go back for subsequent transfers to have biological siblings for our children! (If any of this seems SyFy, and you have questions, please don’t hesitate to ask).
So as of today, 2/22/12, we have officially chosen our babies (embryos) and we have 12 children waiting to be born! Husband discovered this makes me a (dodecagon mom) Also, we are officially scheduled to receive a transfer of these embryos in May!!! J J The next step is to begin a medication regime that includes pills and shots L